tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-99532222024-03-13T10:59:31.160-06:00Inspired Work of Self-IndulgenceDuly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.comBlogger1508125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-43062140366287292772018-04-04T13:38:00.002-06:002018-04-04T13:38:37.800-06:00Getting the goodThis morning I woke up with a giant scowl on my forehead. I don't recall my dreams but I imagine I took stress with me when I went to sleep. All I wanted to do was make coffee and sit in my outside chair and stew in things that are stressing me or upsetting me in some way. Not a good way to start the morning, but it's what I wanted to do nonetheless. I didn't do that, but I<i> wanted</i> to. I look at Dixie's hopeful eyes, laced up my shoes, and we headed out the door. Wow! The sunlight was golden and lighting up all the treetops and shining like a flashlight down my street. As we walked and I breathed in the fresh cool air, my scowl left my face and my stress lifted from my shoulders.<br />
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Had I given in to that negative I was feeling, I would have missed the gifts waiting for me. My mood was completely lifted by the time we returned home. I reached for my phone to text a friend who I knew would be delighted by my experience. My phone's ringer was still off from the night before but when I picked it up, there was an incoming call. I didn't recognize the number, but I answered it with a smile in my voice. Good thing. That call was a telephone interview for a job I applied for yesterday. It went very well.<br />
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Good things are there for us when we move with intent.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-17878376170073538182018-01-05T13:00:00.001-06:002018-01-05T13:02:24.245-06:00Watering the Winter Garden<br />
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year when I saw him. I was stopped at a red light on the access road. He was
hunched over his cane, hobbling slowly on the median extending along the
intersecting street. He moved slowly, so carefully. He looked like a winter
garden, beaten down, without promise, cold. I was warm as I watched him. My car
was warm — my seat heaters were doing their job. As I watched him I thought
about that bit of absurdity. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">What a
luxury I have with heated seats in my car while that guy is begging for food.</i></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 107%; margin: 0px;"><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">There but for the grace of God.</span></span></div>
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cardboard in one hand and his cane in the other, balancing between his message
and his steps.</span></span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt; line-height: 107%; margin: 0px;"><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">I pulled $20.00 from my wallet as the light
turned green. Then I remembered there was a McDonalds farther up the road.</span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">My friendly neighborhood Facebook site has several
lengthy conversation threads about the homeless people who frequent the freeway
intersections. Many lack compassion and are in fact angry. I understand, I do.
There are people who systematically work the streets as a job, driven there by
a “boss” or driving there themselves. And many people think that homeless
people are simply lazy or homeless by choice, or druggies who choose to be that
way. As if being homeless is a preferred option, as if addiction isn’t real.
They say that if you give the beggars a handout or food, that you are part of
the problem, that you are a fool. Sigh. There are so many issues to consider
before condemning. Mental illness and addiction being two -- being flat out of
luck is another.</span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">I would rather be a fool than heartless.</span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">I drove to McDonalds, ordered a breakfast meal
and a large cup of coffee with several creams and sugars.</span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">When I returned and approached the man, I could
see him better. His coat was adequate but his jeans were thin. His face was
dirty, his eyes dark. I rolled down my window, said, “I got you a hot meal and
some coffee.” His tired eyes lit up a bit, a momentary spark, as he reached for
the bag my hands held out for him. He juggled his cane, sign and the bag and
then took the cup of coffee. His hands were stained and shaking. I gave him ten
dollars and told him to take care of himself. He thanked me. He didn’t preach
to me, he didn’t ask me for a cigarette, he just stood there, holding the warm
food and coffee, holding the ten dollars, and he looked at me and said, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">thank you.</i></span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">It’s not much, what I did. But it was something.
I believe we all must do at least something, where we can and when we can.
Everyone has a garden inside of them. We all need nourishment, from food as
well as kindness.</span><br />
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<span style="margin: 0px;">Two days later, two homeless men died from
exposure to the frigid temperatures Houston is experiencing. I hope those two
men knew kindness before they died. </span></span><span style="font-family: "arial" , sans-serif; margin: 0px;"></span></div>
<b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike>Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-66352391202165520632017-12-20T12:34:00.001-06:002017-12-21T09:26:50.552-06:00The Agony of Consequence<span class="body-text-content">I didn’t know him. Before Monday morning, I wasn’t aware of him at all. Right now, I am grieving him, grieving for my friends who lost him. When I heard the news, I saw a blue and golden globe rising. But that is just me inserting myself into the story.</span><br />
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Their songs are the same:<i> </i><span class="body-text-content"><i>Please, God, not my child. </i> </span><br />
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<span class="body-text-content"><br />The other guy was a little punk, not worth more than the dirt on the road, or so he thought. He had something to prove though. <i>Fuck them all</i>, he thought. <i>Who cares</i>? He can’t remember the last time he gave a shit, you know? So now he has a gun in one hand, and in the other he's holding a mixture of something called <i>nothing to lose</i> and <i>something to prove</i>.<br /><br />If you believe your life means nothing, how can anyone expect you to value any other life? I mean, come on. Don’t be so fucking stupid. Is that what he heard in his mind? <i>You’re so fucking stupid?</i><br /><br />I wonder if he trembled when he aimed at the truck. I wonder if beads of sweat formed on his brow as he held the power in his hands, as his anger sprouted and irritated his young body. Maybe he pissed his pants at the immediate scent and sound of gunshot, at the finality and the reality that followed the angry split second it took him to pull the trigger. HE CRACKED OPEN THE WORLD. He pulled that trigger four times. Was he surprised that this time he really did it? Maybe he wanted to vomit. Maybe he regretted it and wondered what the hell he just did. <i>What have I done? </i></span><br />
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<span class="body-text-content">His loved ones and friends were unaware they would soon be obsessively searching their day for what they were doing at that moment. They'd repeat over and over again their last conversation with Tyrese, and they'd scramble for their last laughter shared. They would search for and imagine the exact moment they would eventually define as the line between his life and death. As the line between their life, before and after his. They will never know for sure.</span><br />
<span class="body-text-content"><br />And so it was, just a week before Christmas, a Sunday evening on a quiet dirt road beneath a darkening sky in East Texas, that an edgy 17-year old crossed paths with a truck full of young men -- one in particular an 18-year old just days after his birthday, eager for life, a hometown football kid, along for the ride, sitting in the back seat.<br /><br />One is dead. One has been arrested. All are forever changed. Fragile decisions, tragic consequences.</span><b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike>Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-30028085384031359552016-10-10T18:49:00.002-06:002016-10-10T19:01:05.926-06:00Particularly GoodYesterday I posted on Facebook (which years ago I let seduce me from this blog even though all I give in return is short descriptions of a moment here and there, farts of inspiration and nothing of real thought-filled follow-through). Ahem. Sunday evening I posted on Facebook that it had been a particularly good weekend. This evening, during my somewhat daily meditational drift while watching the sprinkler in the back yard, I thought about what made me say <em>particularly good</em>, and I realized that it was -- to me -- the perfect balance of planned and unplanned. Enough structure for the framework but plenty of room to ad lib.<br />
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Meet a friend for hours of horse talk, champagne and bacon (with blue cheese!) on a Friday afternoon? Particularly good, I thought, as we sat on the patio and bantered about the hunter/jumper show circuit, old barns vs. new barns, Pennsylvania and New York barns vs. Kentucky and Tennessee barns. Versus Texas barns (An obvious loss) The ceiling fans were high above and slow-moving but the breeze curled across our patio table and the temperature was in the low 80s and I could have sat there all afternoon. But, structure.<br />
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I was sitting for two dogs this weekend, one at my house and one at a friend's house. I was also looking after my great niece, the five-year old, that evening. I told her we needed to go feed my friend's dog (structure) but to put on her bathing suit because we could go swimming while there (ad lib). And she swam and searched for lizards and helped me water my friend's back yard, and swam some more. Then we went home and strung beaded bracelets and necklaces (structure).<br />
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I told her we would bake cupcakes on Saturday (structure) and when she woke up five minutes after I did at the crack of dawn that morning, we took off to the grocery store for what ended up being way too many jars of sprinkles but she is five and, well, who gives a shit how many jars of sprinkles I have in my pantry? (Ad lib) She picked out pink ones and red ones and silver ones and rainbow ones and her excitement each time I said, "Okay, put it in the cart," thrilled me to my core. (Benefit of ad-libbing).<br />
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Saturday rolled lazily and happily into Sunday. I dropped my nephew and his daughter at the museum (structure) in the late morning, rang up a friend and met her at her house to help her with a marketing task (ad lib). We wrapped that up in no time, popped the cork on a bottle of champagne and sat on her balcony and talked and talked while people walked their dogs on the sidewalk below and bees buzzed around the white flowers on her Basil plant. <br />
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Then it was time to pick up my nephew and the five-year old. We headed home to coloring and more jewelry making and a short nap taken by my exhausted nephew. Sunday evening, my house was filled with much silliness and giggles, alphabet singing, counting, and reading of everyone's friend, Dr. Seuss. As I sat on the couch after dinner and listened to my nephew negotiate with his daughter the optimal number of cupcakes to be consumed after dinner, (she's skilled, so she won and got to eat two but only the top part with the icing. Because, sprinkles) I closed my eyes and thought, <em>particularly good.</em><br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-26200775199486908292016-02-12T14:46:00.001-06:002016-02-12T18:02:23.206-06:00Comfort this childWalking from the parking lot into the restaurant, I did a double take at one of the two women walking towards the door. She looked like Jessie, with her graying hair pulled back neatly and her red jacket over her dress. She walked like Jessie too, a slow but sure pace. I stayed at the door and watched her, smiling. I held the door open<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> for the two women, telling the one that she looked just like my dear friend. She smiled and her smile was bright and beautiful. I told her as much and then said, "You look like my friend. I lost her last year but seeing your smile just now made me so happy and I just had to hold the door open for you." </span><div><div><br></div><div>She said, "Come here child and let me give you a hug." </div><div><br></div><div>While holding me in her arms she prayed, "Bless this beautiful child Lord, and give comfort to her."</div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></div><div><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">We pulled back from each other and I said, "He just did."</span></div><div><br></div><div>I love people. </div></div>Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-57701246156760077342016-01-08T09:48:00.001-06:002016-02-12T14:53:43.046-06:00Showing Up<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If he hadn't been late to pick me up from work, I wouldn't have walked through the field. I wouldn't have seen the Dandelions and I wouldn't have thought about wishes. He was late though, and I did walk through the field and I did think about wishes. I plucked a full white puff from the ground, made a wish and blew with all my might to be sure the wish came true. </span><br>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The wish I made was a simple one, and not for me. It was a wish for Jessie, that she was doing well at that moment, and happy, at peace. That's what I wanted, doing well, happy, at peace. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">He was all apologies when I got into the car. Not a problem, I told him, it was a nice walk and I made a wish for Jessie. I reached for my phone to call her. No answer. I called her cell phone. No answer. Perhaps, I thought, she's in the bathroom. I heard the whisper from the wind;<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> she always has her cell phone with her. In a sock, with her</span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> cash, pinned to her bra. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Jessie's biggest fear was that she would fall and be unable to get up. It happened before. She'd call me, 911, a neighbor. We'd get her up. She had a caregiver, provided by her insurance, but the caregivers -- all of them -- were for the most part without any use to her. They did not cook, didn't clean very well, occasionally stole from her, didn't show up or showed up late without calling. Jessie would get to know and like the individual, would help with bus money or groceries when needed, but </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">would sadly realize she was being taken advantage of and call the Nursing company to request a different caregiver. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Another equally desperate but uninterested one would show up in a week or so. The Nursing company knew me all too well. I'd call, complain, explain, take numbers, get promises and then dammit I'd have to call again because nothing would change. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">Her daughter and I had fought before. What was best for Jessie had to be what was most convenient for her daughter. It was never in Jessie's best interest. Many a facility, nurse, insurance agent got familiar with me, as Jessie would say "please talk to my real daughter." </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">I fought and negotiated on her behalf. Her daughter was always too busy. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">The problem was that Jessie's daughter was angry. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> Her daughter was angry that she was adopted by a "maid." Her daughter was ashamed of Jessie. I was proud of Jessie and her daughter was not. We were, to the word, at odds. I loved Jessie; her daughter resented. I bought for Jessie, her daughter stole. I gave, her daughter took. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Heartbroken as I was, I didn't believe her daughter for a minute. I knew then as I know now in my heart that Jessie died the day before. The day she did not answer the phone. The day when, again, a caregiver did not show up. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I went to her house that afternoon, as soon as I could compose myself and drive there. The house was full, her daughter holding court seemingly drinking the attention, dry eyed and laughing. The caregiver came in, they hugged, and she said that Jessie was fine when she had seen her Monday night, but this morning, she found her in the bathroom slumped over. This morning was Wednesday. That caregiver never showed up for work on Tuesday. I gave her a look of pain, anger and knowing better. I locked eyes with her and quieted her. But I bit my tongue. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">My lifelong friend died alone with her biggest fear, that of falling. Because someone did not take their job seriously enough to show up. I cut through their laughter and I said goodbye. Jessie's daughter said she had something for me and left the room. She returned and </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">handed me a watch, said that Jessie was wearing it when she died. She said Jessie had always had it and was sure that she would want me to have something. The watch was a Timex Day Glo that my friend had given Jessie a few months beforehand. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><br></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I spoke at Jessie's funeral service. She was there before me in a beautiful pink casket. I held hands with and cried with her sister, brothers, fellow church goers, auxillary group, nuns, friends and cousins, Aunts, nieces, nephews. All of them spoke of Jessie's love for me, of our friendship. I quietly tucked into her casket, under her right arm, a gold rose that my father had given me years ago and a silver earring with my grandmother's initials engraved. My grandmother adored Jessie and the feeling was mutual. My father and Jessie had the same heart. It was fitting, if not exactly orthodox. </span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When great souls die, <br>the air around us becomes <br>light, rare, sterile. <br>We breathe, briefly.<br>Our eyes, briefly, <br>see with <br>a hurtful clarity. <br>Our memory, suddenly sharpened, <br>examines, <br>gnaws on kind words <br>unsaid, <br>promised walks <br>never taken. </span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Great souls die and <br>our reality, bound to <br>them, takes leave of us. <br>Our souls, <br>dependent upon their <br>nurture, <br>now shrink, wizened. <br>Our minds, formed <br>and informed by their <br>radiance, fall away. <br>We are not so much maddened <br>as reduced to the unutterable ignorance of<br>dark, cold <br>caves. </span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And when great souls die, <br>after a period peace blooms, <br>slowly and always <br>irregularly. Spaces fill <br>with a kind of <br>soothing electric vibration. <br>Our senses, restored, never <br>to be the same, whisper to us. <br>They existed. They existed. <br>We can be. Be and be <br>better. For they existed.</span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When I finished, I took a deep breath. And the people there applauded. The words reached them and they clapped and stood and rejoiced! They knew me and they knew our love, my sweet Jessie and me. I was hugged and kissed and asked to send those words to this one and that one. </span></div>
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<span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I felt that I did Jessie right that day. I loved her sister and her brothers, I cried with the best of them. I followed the hearse to the gravesite and was pulled to the front row by her sister. I dropped roses on her casket and I sadly, desperately, said goodbye. </span></div>
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Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-21740046325419362942016-01-06T16:11:00.001-06:002016-01-06T16:11:36.323-06:00RisingI can't write unless or, I don't know, until my head listens to itself or my heart or the subtle scratching at the door that says to line up my words and march them through my fingers and out into the fresh air. When I don't write it's as if I'm sitting a child in the corner and ignoring her completely. For days, weeks, or in this case over a year. Poor ignored child sitting in the corner. Let's get her out, shall we?Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-60470039473121307452014-11-29T09:42:00.003-06:002014-11-29T09:42:49.030-06:00Giving ThanksTwo weeks before Thanksgiving, the weather in Houston went down to temps we usually don't have here (I read that the last time we had had temps that low <em>that</em> early was in 1909). Even though I am loathe to wear more than long-sleeve t-shirts and at most a down vest in the winter, meaning I can't stand sweaters or coats, I did happily pull on my boots that first morning of cold air. Two nights in a row, we reached freezing temps. And then? Back to the typical high 40s to low 70s. The boots went back in the closet.<br />
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Just a few days after that brief freeze, the magic appeared. We had an explosion of Fall colors. EVERYWHERE. Trees up and down my street were glowing golden yellow and orange. My drive to work was dotted with deep reds and golds. That brief freeze gave Houston the gift of Fall, actual Fall during the Fall season. (Occasionally, we get some Fall color in January but it is a dizzying punch in the gut to have Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and then, Fall colors.) I have been so happy walking my streets, driving the roads, so happy with the colors filling my eyes. I just stare at the deep yellow leaves and take a deep breath, give pause and appreciation for this unexpected delightful beauty.<br />
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This year, this glorious year, Thanksgiving day was surrounded by the colors of nature in change, the colors I love, the signs of transition from one season to the next. I see it as a special gift and I'm so happy to be experiencing and enjoying it. <br />
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I might not be equally happy when it comes time to raking the yard, but a little effort is not much to pay for a whole lot of beauty.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-55757012615482026672014-02-03T09:56:00.000-06:002014-02-04T08:28:52.352-06:00Yesterday's NewsI think that like many people, I was shocked on Sunday to learn that Philip Seymour Hoffman died. All avenues of media went into a frenzy. In the bathroom, needle in his arm, empty heroin bags nearby, the whole ugly mess of his death. Why is it always in the bathroom? For as much as anyone can like another without knowing them, I liked Mr. Hoffman. I lost him in movies to his characters and I think that is the coolest thing about being in the audience, to lose the <em>star</em> in the movie because he or she is <em>that</em> great an actor. I read his interviews and was sure to check out talk shows where he was the guest. Beyond that though, I didn't seek him, didn't google him, didn't do more than appreciate what he gave. <br />
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But to be clear, I was a fan.<br />
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And Sunday, the news of his death. I've watched interviews where he spoke proudly of being 23 years sober. I did not know that he went into rehab recently, that he'd <em>fallen off the wagon, </em>as they say. I did not know the devil was after him again.<br />
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I do know that this has nothing to do with me, not a single thing. But. BUT. Sunday afternoon on Facebook, someone I know posted sadness at Mr. Hoffman's death. I read the comments and about seven comments down was this: <em>Pure STUPIDITY</em>. The comment was in reference to the overdose and I took offense. I commented right below that addiction has nothing to do with intelligence or lack thereof. Plenty of people <em>liked</em> my comment and that felt good.<br />
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I want to tell you why it felt good and what my connection is to Mr. Philip Seymour Hoffman.<br />
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When I was nine years old, I was already loving a drug and alcohol addict, though her path had just begun. She was my hero. I remember the smell of her hair and the shape of her young arms. I knew the way her jeans hung low from her hips, the curve of the belt that held her jeans on her body. I watched her every gentle move with animals and I spied on her when she stole our parents' cigarettes. She wasn't an addict then, not yet, but the spark was lit and the flame was beginning to take hold. Her unraveling would go on for years. <br />
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I can tell you something about addiction. It is constant. It is a monster, a hungry beast that is never sated. We, we humans, are frail and beautiful beings. We can love and hate, heal and destroy. We are tender and mortal and yet powerful beings, but we are no match for addiction. Addiction will feed itself at the risk of life. Addiction is so fucking strong, such a cruel and savage beast, it will convince the brain to believe that whatever it wants is absolutely necessary for the body; it will incorporate whatever substance into the mind and body's sense of normal and, subsequently, the body and mind become dependent. And must have more. <br />
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Addiction might be a habit but it's not a decision or a choice. It's an override of the power to choose, a block to reason.<br />
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Yeah, I've seen addiction at work. I've seen it steal, starve, threaten, point a gun, destroy friends, family, neighbors and strangers. I've seen addiction reduce a healthy, vibrant being to a sickly and ashen shell. I've seen heroes fall and young dreams fail. I've seen addiction take everything and everyone in its path down a swirling tunnel of destructive hell. Ruined lives, ruined connections, destroyed trust, tortured hearts, wrecked cars, destroyed beauty, and destroyed minds.<br />
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Addiction has nothing at all to do with intelligence. It does not give a flying fuck if you are rich, poor, smart or otherwise. Not if you are male, female, a child or adult. Not what country you live in, neighborhood you live in or car you sleep in. Addiction does not care about your popularity, your net worth or your children. It doesn't care about your house, your promises, your confidence or your job. Not if you are an Oscar winner or struggling to get a spot in the school play. Addiction does not discriminate.<br />
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So, yeah, that's why it felt good to have the support on my comment to the person who could only summon up the word <em>stupidity</em>. At least in that conversation thread, more people were area of what addiction is than were not. I did click on the person who made the comment though and on his page I learned that he has lost friends to overdoses. It is a very real and current issue in his life. He is hurt and angry and I understand that. I hope that he can reach out past the anger for some comprehension. Without understanding the disease, he'll never be able to forgive the behavior.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-44171632697551420722014-01-28T08:03:00.000-06:002014-01-28T11:36:48.764-06:00Day CareA few years ago, a friend and I volunteered to pick up some dogs from a boarding facility and transport them to an adoption location for a local rescue organization's adoption day. When we arrived at the boarding facility, a woman named Jamie greeted us with a megawatt smile and such warmth and joy, such friendliness and gratitude, that I felt immediate comfort around her. She was hopeful and enthusiastic about <em>her babies</em> getting adopted that day. <em>These two are my babies</em>, she said as she helped us load the dogs and their crates, loving on them and wishing them luck for a forever home.<br />
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I would soon learn that all dogs are Jamie's babies. She's an animal lover to her core and she's a natural with dogs.<br />
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I began to take Dixie in a couple times a week for doggie day care on days I wanted to give Cheyenne a break from Dixie. Dix took to Jamie immediately and I knew that she was in good hands with Jamie. Jamie and I became friends. Sometimes I would bring her coffee and we would chat for a while when I dropped off Dixie. Jamie shared her dream of opening her own doggy day care place one day. She had big ideas, big dreams. I couldn't help but get caught up in her excitement when she spoke. She wanted to help the rescue organizations, so she wanted ample space for kennels. She wanted to work with the rescued dogs and get them socialized and trained and ready for adoption. And she wanted a certain kind of kennel that by design was environmentally safer for the dogs, keeping them healthier through lack of exposure to any illnesses. She wanted a veterinarian to open shop there. She wanted to provide a neighborhood doggy day care center with plenty of land for dogs to run and play during the day while their owners went to work. I could see her dream unfolding as she spoke. <br />
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Jamie opened that place late 2012. It has a reception area, a lounge area with couches and a television, where you can wait while your dog is seen by the vet. It has a huge room in the center that is divided into three large enclosures with short walls of varying height. This is the indoor play area separated into play rooms for, you probably guessed it, large, medium and small dogs. When she opened, I gave her a large poster of a black and white photo of Cheyenne. That hangs in the kitchen and always brings a smile to my face when I see it.<br />
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Dixie loves going to doggy day care. She cannot wait to get out of the car when we pull into the parking lot, and then she can't wait to get in the door. Jamie spoils her rotten and I love knowing that. She lets Dixie roam around like she owns the place. One other dog gets to do that as well, and that is Rufus, a big sweet boy whom Dixie adores. <br />
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All of this to say that when Jamie texted me this photo last week of Dixie and Rufus relaxing in the lounge area, I was not at all surprised.<br />
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Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-16176188633250513962014-01-27T14:34:00.000-06:002014-01-28T08:03:41.062-06:00This dayWhen I woke this morning, I reached over to pet Dixie and she immediately jumped off the bed, ever eager as she is to get outside and see what's there and assess if anything is out of place because if there is, by gosh, she's going to bark and bark at whatever it is until she is satisfied that her world is right again. I rolled my eyes, looked at the clock then pulled the covers over my head. I thought of how Cheyenne would always flip over on her back in the mornings, presenting her belly for a nice rub. She'd sometimes fall back asleep and then I would fall back asleep. I wished for that this morning. Just for a moment. A small wish, self-serving. I wanted to sleep deeply and undisturbed. <br />
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Six years. It's been six years since my mother passed. A day in the calendar, just a date. I don't mean to even be aware of it but here it is. I miss her. Six years have done nothing to lessen that. I miss her wit and the shape of her hands. I miss her smile and her wisdom, her hand writing and opinions. I miss borrowing her shoes and the way my name sounded in her voice. I miss her being here, alive, present.<br />
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Dixie insisted that I get up, and for much of the morning I moped around the house beneath the weight of my sadness and that made me even more sad because it was pathetic. It's not as if this date is a surprise to me and it's not as if she was here yesterday. Then again, I can't control how I feel and I cannot control wanting to crawl under the covers on this day. What I can control though is the mess that I let my house get over the weekend. Dixie dragged dirt and sticks inside, the clean laundry was overflowing, the kitchen, oh dear the kitchen was a disaster of messy counters, a dishwasher that was full of clean dishes and a sink that was full of dirty dishes. So I got busy. And while that didn't make me feel good, it did make me stop moping. <br />
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I miss my mom. I will always miss her. There's less struggle inside me trying to resolve the woman I knew and loved with the woman who was angry, confused and unraveled by dementia. I counted on time to help me there and it has and for that I am relieved. Still, today, by the date, is a sad one for me. It is a marker of how much time has passed, the worst of anniversaries. <br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-15333885745252262652014-01-16T09:20:00.002-06:002014-01-16T12:25:58.320-06:00Another one bites the dustI've had a little secret for a long time. My mother gave it to me when I was in high school. Betty Groth did not like to pay full price and, consequently, nor do I. She was a bargainer and she knew a good deal when she found one. She liked good quality for a reasonable price. And she took a particular thrill when she compared what she paid for an item to the price for that item at another store. She knew where to shop when she wanted or needed to update her wardrobe. First, she subscribed to Vogue Magazine, and read that thing cover to cover. She followed styles, avoided trends, and always dressed conservatively but with a bit of flair all her own. She had style. She would go to Neiman Marcus or Saks Fifth Avenue and walk through the stores pricing items that she got her attention or that she'd seen in Vogue. Then, she'd go to Loehmann's and head to the Back Room.<br />
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If you're not familiar with Loehmann's, the store is a discounted designer clothing store, which Frieda Loehmann started way back in 1921 in Brooklyn, NY. And last Thursday, all Loehmann's stores in the country started liquidation sales because they are going out of business. Bankruptcy, weak internet presence, stiff competition, blahblahblah. The news hit me hard.<br />
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For the longest time, there was just one Loehmann's in Houston. It was across town but worth the drive. My mother began taking me there when I was beginning high school. At first I hated it. You see, Loehmann's has one dressing room. One big room, lined with mirrors and hooks. You tried on clothes after taking your clothes off in front of everyone. The horror for my teenage privacy needs! At least Mom was in another dressing room. The Back Room, where the high end designer clothes were kept and where you just hung up your items on a peg and stripped down right there among the racks of clothes, was where Mom found her best bargains. It was separated from the rest of the store by thick blue floor-to-ceiling curtains. For a while, I was too young to go back there. Such a mystery it was! Until, at least, she made friends with a sales woman back there who made an exception as long as I stayed with my mother. You'd think I was five.<br />
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When Loehmann's opened a second Houston location, they did so right at the freeway exit one would take to get to our house. I remember how excited my mother and I were. By then, I was out and on my own but we'd still go there together and she'd still head to the Back Room where prices were prohibitive for me but still a great deal for her. This location did not have curtains blocking the Back Room, nor did it have a separate dressing room. I can still hear her calling me over to ask my opinion of a dress or a suit. I have many memories of she and I in Loehmann's.<br />
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The dress my mother wore to the inauguration of George Bush was a dress she bought at Loehmann's. That was a great day we shared.<br />
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I shop at Loehmann's regularly, most recently over Christmas where I got a load of clothes for my nephew for not a load of money. (Their men's department is quite small but good.) Because my mother shopped there for so many years, she earned the Black Diamond membership, which translated to 10% off purchase total, including sales. The membership number is our old home phone number. I've enjoyed that 10% discount for years.<br />
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I'm going to stop in the original Houston store this weekend, just to take a stroll through the racks of clothes, to remember the years of shared shopping with my mother. Years where she taught me about good fit, good quality and good prices. I will miss Loehmann's, miss walking into the store and remembering my mother, miss saying our old phone number out loud. I'll also miss the great deals that I would get there. But, most of all, I will miss experiencing what my mother gave me long ago.<br />
<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-18447820601592718262014-01-07T08:43:00.002-06:002014-01-19T12:57:02.460-06:00Brave girlAre you familiar with the <a href="http://bravegirlsclub.com/">Brave Girls Club</a>? It's a website of pure positive, it's support and encouragement for women and the tag line is <em>Let's be good to each other</em>. I don't visit the website often but I do receive daily emails from the group. The emails are accessible in their language and tone, conversational and uplifting. This isn't Dr. Phil stuff, it's the stuff of dialog between you and a good friend. <br />
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There has been an inner turmoil brewing in me for quite some time and while I created it, heard it, worked it over and over, I haven't moved it forward to any conclusion or action. Yesterday, I took a baby step of action. It was good and it felt good and right. And then this morning, I got this email from Brave Girls Club and hello? Exactly what I needed to read. <br />
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<em>Dear Extraordinary Girl,<br /><br />Something wonderful happens to us as we are paying more attention to our souls, and at first it might not seem like such a wonderful thing. It's the day that we get flat out, undeniably SICK AND TIRED of the way things are.<br /><br />If you find yourself in this place, lovely friend, take heart and know that this is the catalyst for deep and meaningful change and for the resolve it will take to get from where you don't want to be to exactly where you want to be, and never go back.<br /><br />There must come a day when ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, when all of the excuses finally lose their power. There must come a day when things are so far from the path that feels like yours that you will do anything to get on the right path. THIS is a very good day, a day that deserves a thankful heart and serious consideration, attention and some of your undivided time.<br /><br />So if you are sick and tired of the way things are, this is the doorway to the way things are meant to be. We must step out of what we don't want to be able to step into what we do want. It is SO WORTH IT.<br /><br />Keep going, beautiful girl. You are going to get there. You are going to be ok. Everything is going to work out and this will be worth every tear you cry, every mile you walk, every hurdle you overcome.<br /><br />You are so very loved.<br />xoxo</em><br />
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Project Alison 2014 has begun.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-35397543117567633222014-01-04T10:57:00.003-06:002014-01-19T12:58:45.513-06:00For the dogsIt's funny how dogs recognize the difference between when you're packing to go somewhere without them and the times they get to go with you. Before I had even opened the pantry to pack her food, Dixie knew she was going with me. She may not have known that she was going to the cabin for New Year's Eve, but <em>did</em> know she was going somewhere. She was all tail wags and running from room to room, jumping on my bed, jumping back off and high-tailing it in circles around the bedroom. Silly Dixie. <br />
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On the drive to the cabin, we made a quick stop at a local restaurant to pick up chips to go with the queso we planned to make but somehow never did. Before I opened the door to the restaurant, I turned back and looked at the car to see Josie and Dixie excitedly looking out the car window. At least I think the look on Josie's face was excited. The more I look at the photo I snapped though, the more I think that if she could speak, she'd be asking, "How much longer until we get there?"<br />
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We finally did get there and two days later when we got home, they were blissfully worn out. I love that for them, that I can bring them to a place to explore and sniff and roll around in the grass and play, where they can either freak out at (Josie) or chase (Dixie) armadillos and discover scents on the breeze and turn their heads in wonder. These two definitely had a happy new year.<br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-13215167535442876392014-01-03T09:52:00.001-06:002014-01-19T12:59:53.901-06:00Raindrops on RosesOn the first morning of the new year, I awoke early, brewed some strong coffee and set out for a walk with the dogs. I spent new years eve and the first two days of the year at our cabin near Matagorda, Texas. There's a certain peace and deep comfort that I experience there that I don't usually reach in other places. The winter months are my favorite. Bare tree limbs, crisp light, the chilly hum of the morning.<br />
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As we walked, geese flew overhead. Their honking and calling were distant at first, so slight on the air but enough for me to notice, to stop, to stand still with my eyes closed and listen to them, listen to this my favorite of all nature's sounds, as they grew louder, flying over us, and then weaker again as the geese flew beyond us.<br />
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I never saw them. The grey clouds were low and thick. But hearing them is so powerful and calming, simple and peaceful.<br />
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It was a great kick-off to the new year. Hot cup of coffee in hand, the dogs, the bare tree limbs, cold air, grey sky and the sound of the wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings.<br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-87162756932553913832013-12-31T09:03:00.001-06:002014-01-19T13:00:29.881-06:00Adios 2013This is my 43rd post this year. That's two more than 2012 and a little less than half from 2011. Could it be I've run out of things to say? Could it be I've stopped noticing the world around me, stopped listening to the thoughts inside me? Surely I cannot have run out of things to say. That's too easy. I think it's that while I haven't stopped paying attention to the world around me, to the magic and beauty that is always there, I <em>have</em> somehow stopped exploring, stopped taking the time to let it all soak in. I don't like that realization, not one bit. It's about time, really, not about taking the time but about making the time. Observation must be a priority, a habit that takes root and becomes second nature. It used to be that way with me but I disconnected from that in 2013. I'm not sure why.<br />
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I seek to change that in 2014. Starting today, the last day of 2013.<br />
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I am heading to the cabin in a couple hours, going to spend the changing of the calendar in the place that I love, among the trees and the lazy moving river. Nature knows not of the calendar or the clock and I like that very much.<br />
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Have a safe and happy new year and, of course, all my best to you and yours.<br />
<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-63433523147874154392013-12-25T09:28:00.002-06:002013-12-25T09:34:21.890-06:00On this dayWhat a beautiful morning this Christmas morning is. It's quiet, my front and back doors open to the chilly air. The only sound really is the crackle of the fire in the fireplace and the chattering birds outside in the trees. I took Josie and Dixie for a walk last night, each wearing one of Cheyenne's two jingle bell collars. We jingled through the neighborhood looking at Christmas lights and decorations. We walked again early this morning, a long walk, jingling all the way. The warm smell of smoke pouring from many chimneys, just perfect.<br />
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Last night, my nephew, his girlfriend, their three-year old daughter, Faith, and I went to the children's service at my church. We sang and prayed and rejoiced. I realized that was all I wanted this Christmas, to go to church with them, to watch Faith experience the thrill of worship and song on such a special night. I wore my mother's pearls and a ring my father gave me many years ago. I felt them there with us, the light in their love was clear. <br />
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This morning, my niece Catherine called and opened her gifts from me while we were on the phone. I wish I could have seen her face but the tone of her voice left me little doubt what her smile looked like. <br />
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Later today, I will visit a dear elderly friend and listen to her stories about me when I was a baby. She loves to tell those stories and I can't deny that I love to hear them. She will close her eyes, tilt her head back and chuckle to herself at the memory. I will close mine and wrap my heart around her. And later still, friends will be coming over for cooking, dinner and celebration. <br />
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This is my day, quiet and beautiful, love and long distance. It is a magnificent time, this Christmas day. I wish you and yours a very merry Christmas. And I leave you with these words:<br />
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“<em>And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places.</em>” -Roald DahlDuly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-55785620421495840102013-12-18T08:58:00.001-06:002013-12-18T08:58:35.509-06:00IntersectionWhen I was in the shower Tuesday morning, he was stepping off the bus. I wasn't thinking of him and no doubt he wasn't thinking of me. We had never met. We never will. When I drove to work, I saw him on the street. A white sheet covered him. Police cars were everywhere, so many police cars. A fire truck. A news truck. People standing on the grassy median. I was westbound, he was in the eastbound lane. I lost my breath. I began to cry. Because it was just too much, to see a body that was no doubt so recently a life. <br />
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When I got to the office, I searched every five minutes or so for news of the accident. His name, I would learn, was Carl. He was a mentally challenged 60-year old. He stepped off the bus at 6:30, on his way to a job he held for over 20 years. When he crossed the street, he was hit by a car. That driver stopped. The second car that hit him ran over him. That driver did not stop. The two coworkers who were on the bus with him ran for help. The first driver desperately tried to help him. But it was too much, and it was too late.<br />
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I thought about him most of the day yesterday, I wondered about those who loved him, who knew him. I imagined his life. I grieved that it has ended.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-38073845070972032162013-10-28T09:04:00.002-06:002013-10-28T11:45:22.282-06:00Cabin weekendJosie made her first trip to the cabin this past weekend and although she didn't come right out and say it, in the language of tail wags, I'm fairly confident that she loved every minute. <br />
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The winter months are my favorite at the cabin. The sun rises across the property with long rays that that cut through a low-lying and ghostly mist. I like to wake early in the morning, make coffee and take the dogs for a walk through the quiet and changing light of this time of year. It's incredibly peaceful. Mornings are a big part of what I love about being there. <br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-91696898994358750272013-10-21T07:48:00.001-06:002013-10-21T08:17:13.339-06:00Now we are threeIt started last week. On Facebook, no less. It's a story about more than one. Her sons were grown and had years ago moved on. She lives on a ranch in Brenham. Picturesque, rolling hills, a big pond, a green expanse with Live Oak trees spreading their branches low and wide. Her sons had been worried, she wasn't able to care for herself or the house any longer. Her memory was slipping by the day. They made the decision to move her to an assisted living facility. But what about her dogs?<br />
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The small one, a cow dog mix breed, was easy. One son volunteered to take her. The other one, a 120 pound three year old chocolate lab, wasn't as easy. A daughter-in-law contacted her vet, asking them to put the word out on Facebook and post a picture. Turns out, her vet is also my vet. <br />
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After Cheyenne died, I couldn't imagine ever getting another chocolate lab. She was <em>the once in a lifetime dog</em> for me and I wasn't sure how I would connect to another dog of her breed. I miss her every day. After going through the puppy years with Dixie, I couldn't imagine wanting to do that again. So, I decided Dixie and I would be a family of two. Until I saw the posting from my vet on Facebook.<br />
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I worried what would happen to this dog. I worried about the woman whose life was changing so quickly. I thought about my mom when she was moved into assisted living care. I felt such a pull to do something, for her, for her dog. I knew I could give her peace of mind by giving her dog a good home. My only concern was Dixie but I wanted to at least try. I called the vet for the contact information. <br />
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On Saturday, my friend and I drove to Brenham to meet Josie. Thirty minutes later, we were on our way to her new home, Dixie and Josie riding in the back seat not seeming to mind each other one bit. I had some concern about Dixie's alpha dog mentality, if she'd be aggressive with Josie. If she was so, I'd explained to the family that I'd have to return Josie, not wanting to put either dog through that. <br />
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Surprisingly, Dixie has done pretty well. Her main concern is that what's hers is hers, as you can see in the picture below where she is chewing on a bone while keeping one of her paws protectively on her other bone. Dixie has never been one to share. That includes me. But Josie is not an alpha dog; she's quite the opposite, docile and quiet. She has figured out her position and settled right into it. Right now? She's asleep beside me on the couch. Dixie is on her bed by the fireplace, happily gnawing on her bone. <br />
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So yeah, a two dog household once again. Josie isn't at all like Cheyenne but she opens my heart again, to the memories of Cheyenne, to my love of Labradors. I like the way it feels. It's good for me, to have her in my life, and it's good for Dixie too. Together, the three of us will be just fine.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-63134007854815015342013-08-24T20:56:00.000-06:002013-08-25T09:06:01.195-06:00Whisper to a screamAt first this site was about discovery, fun, photos of Cheyenne. Then for the longest time this little spot of mine was about loss. Fear of loss, dancing with loss, arm wrestling loss, daring it, burying it, bleeding it. Fucking facing it and taking it down. I think I've always been afraid to lose. Not a race but a person, a heart, love, scent, laughter, familiarity, patterns, meaning. I've never once trusted the present so much so that I could see its colors taking me into the future. <br />
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We'll put aside my faith in sunrises and sunsets, in wet sliding colors and hope. For now.<br />
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My favorite words for clarity? "It is what it is." You can't argue with that. You could try but you really cannot argue with that. I like those words because they remind me to keep perspective. <br />
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When I was in college, three people challenged me: Two teachers and one contemporary. I was terrified of his intelligence, his resistance. I was hungry to learn from him, to be ripped open and exposed by him. I was hurt by his challenges, his laughter. I was inspired by his heart, when he cared to show it. Not once was I in love with him, but every single minute I loved him.<br />
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At 21, I brought him to my apartment after a night at the bar. We were both drunk. I made him scrambled eggs in a large soup pot (the only pot or even pan I had at the time). He stood across from me in the kitchen, one eyebrow raised. My goodness he was handsome. I thought he was appreciative, or at least intrigued. He was not. <br />
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It became a joke to him, to his friends, that effort I made, something thrown at me as if my gesture of cooking were a failure. It hurt me, his laughter. I had thin skin back then; I did not stand up for myself.<br />
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He was smarter than me, more clever to be sure, tricky, at times cruel. He was independent, knew his politics, his history, his fight. I was just off the bloom, struggling to define myself outside of my family. He often left me in tears as he made me question every single thing that I was because he demanded that I know not only what I felt or thought, but why. Always I had to defend myself to him. Always it was painful and tiring. <br />
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He challenged me and he exhausted me, and I feared, loved and hated him for that. Yet today I smile. I wonder if he knows that his challenges prepared me for my life. I wonder if he knows that he made me strong. I don't think he set out to mentor me but that is what he did.<br />
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Some battles he did lose. I still believe that hope and optimism are powerful tools.<br />
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The other day, someone commented here. Someone commented anonymously and mentioned Lubbock. I looked at the words, allruntogetherlikethis, and I wondered. Could it be him? Who knows? If it was though, I wonder if he'll come back and read this as well. If so? I say hello old friend, you with the same initials as me.<br />
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I now cook eggs in an appropriate pan. Though with no less enthusiasm. Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-74430465676980546502013-07-17T07:30:00.002-06:002013-07-17T07:30:16.035-06:00The DoodlebugSometimes I watch Dixie and shake my head. How did I get <em>this</em> dog? I know the answer. It was impulsive. I saw the hand painted sign, "Coonhound Puppies," and decided if it was there when I passed the following day, I would stop by, just to take a look. I pulled onto the dirt and grass shoulder from the long Texas highway I was driving and I saw her face and her tiny body and, well, we became us. <br />
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She refuses to be house trained if left alone for more than five hours and I refuse to be okay with that. She acts like she expects the privileges she has, acts like she's Paris Hilton, all long and tall and without a second thought as to how she drew the lucky straw. I scold her and she completely dismisses me.<br />
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She has taken over the green chair in my living room. If I sit on it, she will whine because suddenly that is the very spot that she wants to be, needs to be and nothing in the world can ever be right again until she gets in that chair. <br />
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She curls up in the smallest of circles, looking like a buttered biscuit, hiding those skinny butterscotch sticks of legs, tucking them way up underneath her long curled body. She is a wonder of shape and expressions and surprise.<br />
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She does not eat, this one. She can't be bothered. There's air to breathe out there, a leaf might fall, someone might walk past the house. OMG! Her whole life is all caps OMG excitement. This is nothing half-ass about Dixie -- everything she does, she does 100%. Run becomes RUN. Bark? Oh her bark, she has something to say and by gosh she is going to bark at you until you understand you HUMAN. She whines when she's not understood. She paces in circles when she whines. When she sleeps, she's OUT. I can lift her ears, move her legs, play with her lips, nothing will bother her because she has checked out. <br />
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She has pretty much chewed up my coffee table over the past two years. I have purchased a new one but I'm afraid to put it in the house since I busted her the other day nonchalantly chewing on the arm of the wooden chair on my front porch, nibbling with her front teeth. (sigh)<br />
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She is sweet, very sweet. She is curious and entertaining and a constant source of amusement to me. <br />
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Dixie is her own girl, preferring to take on life in her own unique way. Including travel.<br />
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<br />Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9953222.post-42786945597900744562013-07-04T07:33:00.001-06:002013-07-04T07:33:04.765-06:00On the roadGood morning and happy 4th of July! Just as soon as I finish this wonderful cup of caffeine, I am throwing some shorts and t-shirts in a bag, some groceries in the cooler, and heading to the cabin for the long weekend. I can't wait to spend the day there, but mostly its the dusks and dawns that thrill me, the quiet moments of fading light at the ending day and the equally quiet moments when the morning light stretches across the river and touches the house. I love that light. I need that light. And I'm going to get a good dose of it this weekend.<br />
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It's sad for me though that I am not travelling with my Cheyenne. This is the first time in over ten years. Since she came into my life, I have not been to the cabin one time without her by my side. Not once. She is all over that place and I am so happy that I had a place like that for her, for her to be nothing more than what she was, a dog. I am so happy for the wide open spaces and the water's edge, for the big sky and thick woods across from our house, for all the spots that she loved to stick her nose in and explore. After so much time, she is part of the cabin itself. She is the porch and the grass, the blue chairs in the living room, the rug under the kitchen table. Her dog bowl is sitting on top of the refrigerator. <br />
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And so it is that I will be scattering some of her ashes there this weekend. In the morning light, the light she and I would take our walks through, along the path we shared together. Cup of coffee in my hand, my brown friend beside me, that strange and wonderful morning mist hanging in low clouds around us. My sweet girl is going home.<br />
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If I acknowledged what my thoughts were, expressed what my feelings were, tried to figure them out myself, then I would have had to slow down enough to not only realize but accept what was happening with Cheyenne. I did not want to do that. I could not do that. Not then and certainly not here. <br />
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I didn't want the record of it. Recording it would make it real. <br />
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Oh, don't get me wrong, I knew it was real. Somewhere inside of me, I knew that Cheyenne would not reach her 13th birthday. But I locked that away and put it in a dark place, wrapped a blanket around it and shut a door on it and then locked that door tight. Then I turned out the light. <br />
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I chose to carry on, to take each day and move forward with it and her. I attempted to keep one step ahead of the inevitable. Each vet appointment, each ailment, each treatment would rattle that door and I would shut my ears to the noise. I cooked her food, measured protein, balanced chicken and sweet potatoes and green beans. I blended solids into mush. I took her on slow walks, counted our steps and counted the grey hairs on her paws. I rubbed her soft ears and tried to freeze time. I gave her the best care I could and did my best to ignore the passage of time. After all, I used to joke that she and I had made an agreement early on in her life that she would never ever ever die. Silly stuff, that sort of mental game, but when you do it, it's childlike and magical, and on some crazy level believable. In other words, sometimes when you fool yourself it is perfect and you can swim in those warm waters, but only for a while. The truth catches up with your foolish self.<br />
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Of course I knew I would lose her some day. There was nothing to process, no rush of time to speak unspoken words or seek forgiveness. Her death was as inevitable as her being alive, as sure as all the ground we crossed together on our walks. I just didn't want to face it, to face the calendar, to talk about her slowing down. I wanted to absorb all of it and keep it ours, hers and mine. I wanted her aging and her death to be something we shared, like our walks, something we experienced together. <br />
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And in the end, it was that. The last weekend we spent together, her many dog beds all over the living room floor, and for me the mattress from the upstairs sofa bed also down on the floor. I wanted to be on her level. I gave her water with an eyedropper, rubbed her head and her body while she fell asleep, stared at her while she snored, fell asleep with my hand on her shoulder, waking every few minutes just enough to know she was breathing. I guided her and helped her carry the burden of her own weight downstairs when she needed to get into the grass. I cried. I cried a lot. But I did none of that here. <br />
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No one could have told me what it would be like to lose her, to let go of this incredible animal, this beautiful dog, this beautiful brown girl. No one warned me, though I heard so often that perhaps I loved her too much. They worried, my friends did, I had unzipped my heart and let it glow all over Cheyenne. I knew it too, the risk, the inevitable heartbreak I would have, to lose her to the inevitable end to a life that nature designed to be much shorter than my own. But who is to say how much love is too much? It felt like gliding, when I saw her smile at me. It's a different love, that which we feel for our pets. The grief is equally different, no less real and no less deep or familiar to me than times I've mourned the death of loved ones and my parents, but so different.<br />
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I have her paw print in a frame and I have a snip of the curl from her tail in the same frame. They remind me that she was here. I have her ashes. I have hundreds and hundreds of photos of her, of us, of places we traveled together, of places I might have walked past had she not called me to her discovery. I have my memories and I have my gratitude that her life was in my care and that she provided me with so much joy. My sweet Tiny Hiny, Banana Monster, Shiny Cheyenne gave me so very much happiness in our years together. Her life gave mine meaning, responsibility, fun and joy. <br />
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I have all of that and it is enough. It has to be enough. For a time in my life, for an all too short period of time, there was a beautiful brown dog who walked beside me, lived beside me. She was my friend, that brown dog was. She will forever be in my heart. With every step I take.Duly Inspiredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14667265361131163774noreply@blogger.com3