Friday, April 03, 2009
I have a friend who is so far gone that we don't know what to do... a friend who drinks vodka for breakfast (100 proof), a friend who spent time in jail recently from her first DWI. A friend who graduated from University of Texas back then, was so smart back then, but cannot today recall where she parked her car. I have a friend whose childhood was so messed up and physically abusive that all she does to survive is go deep inside her shame and her bottle. And everyone focuses on the details of the risk, of her driving, her car, THE RISK OF HER BEHAVIOR ON OTHER'S LIVES, while patting her drunken head because the nightmare in her head is not something we recognize or even have a clue how to help. Who is she? Do you know? She has trouble in her past, trouble like I can't tell you, and denial and a family sweeping it all under the rug. She's two years away from 50 and her birthday is in four days. She has an addiction to alochol but that's not her problem. Her problem is that her problem has gone on for so long that we have no idea how to help her now. Do you know how to help her? Do you know how to help us help her? If you do, I want to hear from you. After so many years, and many battle scars, we've run out of ideas.